Their Lovin, My Oven

My Journey as a Gestational Surrogate

The Big Day! April 17, 2011

Yay for transfer day!

The embryo transfer was on Wednesday 4/13. Lucky # 13 anyone? πŸ˜‰Β  Our awesome friends and my Mom babysat the girls so that Jake and I could head down to Thousand Oaks. Fellow surros had told me that green and yellow were good luck colors for the IVF transfer, so, pretty much everyone we knew was decked out in at least one of those colors πŸ™‚

We got to Fertility and Surgical Associates of CA at 12:45pm for our 1:30pm transfer appointment. My case manager from Fertility Miracles, Elena, met us there for support. πŸ™‚

All decked out in green when we first arrived πŸ™‚

Hubby & I in the waiting room. His shirt says "You Removed my WHAT?!" LOL

Very shortly after we arrived, we were called back into the procedure room. The nurse went over whatΒ I could expect, my discharge instructions, and lab slips to take to my local lab for blood work this coming week. Once we were finished speaking, I got “dressed” in my transfer gear. I still got to wear my green shirt, and I put on my lucky rainbow socks (that of course had green and yellow) πŸ™‚

My "styling" hospital gown and AWESOME socks πŸ™‚

Once I had taken my valium (a muscle relaxer to make sure all the poking and prodding didn’t upset my uterus) the embryologist came in and showed us the photos of Esteban & Michele’s little bambino! They had fertilized 5 and chose the best one to be implanted. Had the quality not been the best, the doctor would have implanted more than one embryo, but, the quality was the best it possibly could be! πŸ™‚ The transfer only took a few minutes. Once it was done, we got to see a beautiful picture of E & Ms baby. It took everything I had not to cry. It’s just such a wonderful miracle happening and I’m so excited for E & M.
And now? Now we wait. I have a blood test scheduled for Saturday the 23rd. It will be the official pregnancy test. Other surros on All About Surrogacy (an amazing website forum for surrogates and IPs) have said they’ve gotten positive home pregnancy tests (HPTs) as early as 5 days past a 5 day transfer (5dp5dt.) I’m going to take a test tomorrow morning and we’ll see what it says. If it’s negative, I’m convinced it’s just too early. But, with all the prayers and good thoughts that we have not only from the USA, but from Italy as well, I just know that E & Ms bambino is completely snuggled up in Hotel Bambino for the next 9 months.
If everyone can keep up their prayers, we would really appreciate it! I’ll leave you with a wonderful picture of the bambino. The bright white spot is the amazing little angel that we’ll all get to meet in January 2012! πŸ™‚

E & Ms bambino. The bright white spot in the middle of the black circle πŸ™‚


A Long Overdue Update… & PICS! April 16, 2011

It’s been just over a week since my last update and I’m sorry for the delay. We were super busy having the time of our lives with Esteban & Michele! I guess that I’ll start from the beginning since it’s been an exciting and eventful 10 days!

On Sunday (the day after they arrived in CA) we went to the LA Zoo together. The girls immediately “took” to the guys. Our youngest daughter “K” is usually very shy around people she doesn’t know. When we got out of the car, she immediately walked right up to Esteban and let him carry her the whole time we were in line. It’s true what they say – Babies and children are extremely good judges of character and both girls could immediately tell what wonderful people Esteban and Michele are. We had such a blast at the zoo! Our mission of the day was to find the elephants. Considering their size, one would not have expected that to be such a huge project LOL. The elephants enclosure is gigantic and by the time we made it around to one side of their “home” they had moved back to the other side. We were close enough to get zoomed in pictures though, so our older daughter “C” was happy. Here are some pictures from our adventure πŸ™‚

Esteban and "K"


Esteban & Michele


"C", Jake (Hubby), Esteban & Michele

On Wednesday 4/6 I had another check up with Dr. Kumar. Esteban & Michele met me there and it was wonderful to have them at the appointment. Dr. Kumar was measuring my uterine lining to make sure the injections were doing their job and preparing a nice thick and comfy uterine lining for the bambino to snuggle in to. He was looking for anything above 9mm and my lining was at 14! Yeah, I’m a little bit of an over achiever haha. πŸ™‚ After the doctors appointment, we went for coffee and I was able to hear the full story of their journey to surrogacy. It further reinforced what wonderful and amazing people they are and what awesome parents they are going to be!
I took off Thursday and Friday from work so that we could spend more time with the guys before they had to leave on Saturday. On Thursday we decided that we should all go to……. THE HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH!!! That’s right everyone, we went to DISNEYLAND!! It was Jake’s first time, Esteban & Michele’s first time and our daughters’ first time! I haven’t been in at least 10 years so it was a whole new experience for me as well! To say that we had an amazing time would be the understatement of the century! We couldn’t possibly have dreamed up a better day! Here are some pics πŸ™‚

"C" SO excited when we told her where we were!


The Fam with Goofy

The Guys with Goofy
All of us (minus our sleeping baby) with Winnie the Pooh
C with her new BFF Tigger
Boys will be Boys
Our Family ❀
Our New Italian Family ❀


On Friday the guys came to our home for dinner. Hubby made delicious bbq ribs, corn bread, and bbq beans. Everything was delicious and it was truly wonderful to spend more time with the guys before their iminent departure. It was a great night, but, also very sad knowing it would be the last time we would see them before they flew back to Italy. We ate, talked, and enjoyed each others company. I managed to hold back the tears when they left (much to my surprise.) After spending so much time with them, this has become an even more amazing journey than it already has. I’m not just “baking a baby” and giving him/her back to E & M. I’m adding two (and eventually three) truly wonderful people to our family. Even if I had dreamed up the “perfect” set of IPs for our journey, I never could have dreamed up anyone better than Esteban and Michele. We are so blessed to have met them and been matched to take this amazing journey together. I can’t for everything to unfold.

We’ve been so fortunate to be able to Skype with them on a daily basis since they went back home. It’s not the same as having them here and seeing them in person every day, but, it’s a great substitute until they come back in August for another visit.
This past Wednesday, we had a very exciting day! We arrived at Dr. Kumar’s office (Fertility and Surgical Associates of CA) at 12:45p for the EMBRYO TRANSFER! The doctor transferred one beautiful little embie and things couldn’t have gone any better. For the past 3 days since then I have been on bed rest and taking it extremely easy. I just want the little bambino to snuggle in for the next 9 months. I am feeling pretty good. Tired, a little nauseous and having some cramping but overall good. I welcome nausea, cramping, etc as positive signs that E & Ms bambino is getting nice and comfy inside my Baby Hotel πŸ™‚ I have pictures from the transfer date, and will post them very soon. For now, it’s nap time! XoXo

..And I could not ask for more.. April 6, 2011

Filed under: Gestational Surrogacy — Danielle @ 1:10 am
Tags: , , ,

It’s official. I’m convinced that I have the best IFs (intended fathers) in the entire world! I already knew they were amazing the first time we met – We had this instant undeniable connection – But, spending all day with them Sunday reinforced that opinion!

I have gotten their permission to continue my blog and to use full names, pictures, etc. I’m so excited! πŸ™‚

Esteban and Michele aka E & M are the most wonderful people and I truly couldn’t have asked to be matched with a better couple.

Sunday we met for breakfast at IHOP before heading to the zoo. We greeted with hugs and kisses (one on each cheek like in Italy) and immediately started chatting away. We were all just so excited to be able to see each other again! They absolutely spoiled all four of us with amazing gifts. Hubby got the softest polo shirt I’ve ever felt, I got a beautiful heart pendant made from blown glass and their gifts for the girls were perfect! We had talked about our princesses at our first meeting, but, not too in depth. They got our oldest daughter a coloring book with 1000 stickers of Disney Princesses and a dish set in butterfly shape – Princesses and butterflies are two of her favorite things!! We’re so connected already, it’s wonderful!

Once we were done with breakfast, we headed to the zoo. Our youngest daughter let Esteban hold her right away when we got out of the car! She loved them both! :). It was truly amazing to see them first hand with a baby. I know with absolute certainty that they are going to be the best Daddies!

The zoo was such a blast. We talked and talked and then talked some more. It was great to spend time together in a more natural environment. We agreed that at our first meeting we were all so nervous about the other “liking us” and we really needed this time together πŸ™‚ We took tons of pictures which I also got permission to post, so, I promise I’ll do that soon!

After we were done at the zoo we talked about other plans. Hubby decides they couldn’t possibly leave Cali without going to In N Out so that’s where we headed. We talked more and realized we shared so many opinions about our lawyers, the process thus far, etc. It’s amazing how similar our views are on things. We all agree on how lucky we are to be taking this journey together! πŸ™‚

I have another appointment with the RE in the morning so we’ll hopefully have an official transfer date when I leave! Eeeeek! We’re all so excited to be moving forward!

Thank you to everyone for all your kind thoughts and well wishes. It makes all the difference in the world to have a great support system.

Until next time πŸ™‚


Lions, Tigers & Bears.. Oh My!! April 2, 2011

Since my last post, not much has gone on – And that’s a good thing! We’re still truckin’ right along full speed ahead towards the first embryo transfer.

I’ve had one more Delestrogen shot (total of 3 – My dreaded 4th is tonight) and I’ve come to realize that the first one being easy, peasy, lemon squeezy was the universe playing a joke on me. The shots are a pain in my ass – literally. However, any pain is totally worth it. In this case, the “end” (ie a super cute bambino for E & M) totally justify the “means” (ie a big needle in my butt.) LOL.

I’ve got an amazing support system and I couldn’t be more thankful. My Dear Hubby faithfully rubs my tush so the Delestrogen oil doesn’t knot up, refrains from smacking my butt, and doesn’t make fun of me when I cry at tv shows. Our oldest daughter holds my hands while Hubby does the injections. My friends faithfully ask how my butt is feeling on Thursday afternoons at work and everyone shares my excitement at progress towards making E & M daddies. I’m one lucky girl and believe me, I know it :).

I had an appt at the REs office Wednesday. My uterine lining aka future bambino home is building nicely and shots continue as is for now. I have another appt this coming Wednesday. As far as I know, we’re still right on schedule for a transfer sometime between April 8th-11th.

I’m keeping fingers, toes and eyes crossed for April 8th or 9th. Wanna know why? Too bad. Haha just kidding. E & M just landed in Los Angeles for their week long visit!!!!! Yay!!!!! We are meeting them for breakfast bright and early and then heading to the LA Zoo for some quality time! We’ll get to enjoy each others company in a relaxed setting and they’ll get to meet our girls πŸ™‚

If we can do the transfer on the 8th or 9th, E & M will still be here! So, cross those fingers people!

Until next time! πŸ™‚